Child Psychologist

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Child Psychologist
A child psychologist is a psychologist who has a special interest in the issues and problems faced by children.

Why do Some Children Need Psychologists?

Children – however much we would like to think that they are happy and contented and without fear – can face the same trials and tribulations as adults and indeed can sometimes be far more susceptible to psychological and behavioural disorders than adults.

For this reason child psychologists have now become commonplace and the stigma attached to having one treat and counsel our child has now eased.

What Does a Child Psychologist do?

Firstly it is important to note that a child psychologist cannot prescribe medication to a child. The role of the child psychologist is to provide rhyme and reason for children’s behaviour and also to help their parents counteract feelings of depression malcontent and discontent towards those around them.

Many children for example suffer the effects of bullying at school but may never tell their parents. Many children see their bullying as a sign of weakness and telling a parent only makes these feelings manifest themselves ten-fold.

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Educational Psychologist

In the field of education a child psychologist may be known as an Educational Psychologist. An Educational Psychologist’s role will involve – for the most part – dealing with children who have psychological disorders or problems brought about by events or stresses related to schooling. As we have already discussed this may have something to do with bullying, which has now reached such a level that all schools have their own policies on how to deal with the problem.

Bullying, as you may or may not be aware, is not simply a case of one child – or group of children – physically attacking a child. There can be name calling, periods of prolonged psychological attack including name calling and rumour mongering, and now with the advent of technology which is widely and cheaply available to all (the Internet and mobile telephones) attacks on an individual of a psychological nature from afar which happen in and out of the school environment; this is often referred to as 'cyber bullying'.

Local Education Authorities (LEAs) employ the services of child psychologists on a regular basis to deal with some of the issues we have already mentioned. Children who are bullied often become withdrawn and find that their schoolwork and their interaction with those around them – children and adult alike – suffers.

Similarly the bullies themselves may need the assistance of a child psychologist to try and understand why they carry out these attacks on others and to bring about a cessation of their violent acts. Bullying, for the most part, is not a pastime that is carried out simply because it is enjoyable, but because there is an underlying force at work.

If a child is suffering abuse in the home – and this abuse does not have to be physical or sexual – it can be psychological or can be the child’s witnessing of events at home involving either parent; then they can resort to bullying others of smaller stature or quiet demeanour in order to bring attention to their own plight.

This is where the Educational Psychologist is called upon to try and judge the nature of the problem and help bring about a resolution that is beneficial to all. This work can be carried out directly or indirectly – depending on the severity of the case and what the psychologist thinks is the best course of action to take.

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Intervention

Direct intervention can be through counselling sessions where the psychologist and the child will speak to discuss the problems at hand. The psychologist may employ techniques involving learning materials or visual aids to try and promote a response from the child.

Indirect intervention can be carried out with the help of the parents and/or teachers who – liasing with the psychologist may promote the use of special lessons or classes to engage the child without them feeling pressured to give answers which may otherwise make them feel uneasy.

Becoming a Child Psychologist

A good starting block for anyone wanting to become a child psychologist is experience in any of the following: being a teacher, a learning support assistant (classroom assistant), a care worker, a learning mentor, or educational social worker.

Experience in any of the aforementioned plus the ability to communicate well with children and the relevant educational qualifications is the best way for anyone who wishes to become a child psychologist to make a start up the ladder. Consult your Local Educational Authority (LEA) and/or Social services for more information.

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Joanna 02/09/2018 at 2:15 pm
Hi! I need some advice! I wonder is there anywhere around Cleckheaton I could get psychology consultant for my 13 years old son?
nina 01/09/2018 at 8:38 am
Hi! I need some advice! I wonder is there anywhere around Armagh I could get psychology consultant for my 10 years old son?
WorkingWithKids Editor 15/06/2017 at 4:15 pm
I'm afraid if the matter goes to court and the court decides there is little you can do. However, before the hearing it is likely that Cafcass will get involved and your son will be asked his opinion regarding whether he wishes to see his dad or not. The court will usually adhere to the Cafcass report and what it recommends. However, your son's father is entitled to either try to resolve the issue through mediation and if mediation is unsuccessful he can apply to court. Obviously your son feels hurt, angry and rejected, but if he has to date had a close relationship with his dad, hopefully with a bit of counselling these issues can be resolved.
claire 08/06/2017 at 12:28 pm
Hi, my husband walked out on my and my sons 18 months ago with absolutely no warning and moved straight in with his girlfriend. At the time my sons were 13, 10 and 8. It was very traumatic as we all went to bed believing everything was fine and woke up the next day to a very different story. My husband was a mess and when he left simply cried all over the kids and walked out offering no explanation or reassurance. The day he left my 10 year old pretty much begged him to stay. Told him he was the best dad in the world, told him we'd all forgive him, said he couldn't just choose to stop being his dad after 10 years etc etc. He completely exposed himself and laid his feelings bare and my husband walked out on him as I say with no words or reassurance. Since then my son has refused to even be in the same room as him and throws away immediately any cards, presents that my husband sends. I tried to get him counselling a few months ago but he threatened to run away and said he'd go and live with my parents. On the whole I think he is ok at the moment. The problem is that everyone else (my husband, divorce solicitors etc) think we need to try to make him see my husband but I want to do what's best for him. How do we know that he hasn't made the right decision for him? His Dad let him down dreadfully and he says he doesn't want to know someone who treats people like that. I know it isn't that simple but at what point do we stop trying to force him and let him work it out in his own way. FYI I always encourage he see his dad where possible and never speak badly of him in front of the children.
AJ 04/05/2017 at 9:07 am
My 6 he old son has started to refuse to do his school work at school. He is very stubborn and I have to try hard to coerce him to do his homework too. He seems happy enough at playtimes and when he his having fun. He is bright and doesn't struggle with his work at all. However he does like to play games such as pretending to be a dog and we have to interact with the dog!
Pidgenpie 28/03/2017 at 5:19 pm
My 16 year old nephew is suffering anxiety and depression he's having treatment he's to anxious to go to any sort of education but social services are saying he must go to collage is this true
Tasha 14/01/2017 at 1:03 am
Hi my son is nearly six and we have been referred to a child pahycologist he's always had a temper and it has flared up so much this week he is also frightened about death anxious about what people think of him thinks everybody hates him he is very aggressive hits things screams at the top of his lungs repeats things over and over again he can go through a month or a bit longer of great behaviour then he seems to dip and this behavior starts and can go on for over a month he is very good in school on his good times but as soon as it dips his school work and behaviour goes down to the point where he can be removed from the classroom I'm really concerned and just needed some advice his diet is also very limited has to be the same kind of food all the time I just don't know what to do anymore it's worrying me
WorkingWithKids Editor 26/02/2016 at 2:05 pm
As yet it is a phase she may grow out of and is perfectly normal of some children who are shy and still uncertain about the big, new world going on around them. A previous bad experience in a learning or another area that may have made her scared to explore new things, or made her feel insecure. If you feel concerned, and your her nursery teachers agree she has a level of social anxiety that is impacting on her development, then a trip to the GP may help. Our page: Building Confidence in Children, heremay help along with various other online sites or self-help books. Children may be small, but they are also sensitive enough to be affected by all manner of issues surrounding us, and yet at the same time can also bounce back once they have become adjusted. Being gentle and not forcing the issue is one approach, for instance; Rudolph Steiner Schools believe their children should not learn in the first few years (until they are aged seven) and should develop naturally through play alone.
IBK 25/02/2016 at 5:05 pm
Hi,
I need some advice. My 3 year old daughter is struggling with confidence both at home and in school especially around adults and it i affecting her learning. As soon as she is told to do anything that has to do with learning, she just starts to cry and say I don;t know how how to do it. I know she knows it but she just finds it difficult to settle down. It frustrates me as well seeing as she is always crying and never makes attempt to do things. Her teachers in nursery are also worried that she is not at the expected learning stage because she doesn't seem to want to practice things. All she does in school is cry as well. Nothing we tried worked. We have tried praising her to help boost her confidence but it doesn't work. I don't have ideas of what to do that can help her and it breaks my heart that she is lagging behind.
I am not sure what to do, please help with ny ideas that can work.
WorkingWithKids Editor 19/11/2015 at 10:07 am
What is your wife's opinion of this? You don't say what her feelings are and what her relationship is towards your son, therefore it makes it hard to give advice. With regards to your son, bed-wetting, while most kids are able to stay dry through the night shortly after mastering daytime potty training, about 15-20% of six year olds, 2-3% of 14 year olds, and 1% of kids 15 and over still wet the bed. Since boys are slower to develop physically, they are three times more likely to be bedwetters than girls. Bed-wetting can either be a physical reaction such as having a small bladder. Or a more psychological one where emotional upset and anxiety, whether short term or prolonged, can increase the chances that your child will wet the bed. Really, you are the person that can most answer your question, as you are the person who has the closest relationship to your son. Have you sat him down and asked him directly, but gently why he ignores his step-mother? Communication should be with him first and foremost, as this will give you the information and tools to work towards resolving this issue. I hope this helps.
Derek 18/11/2015 at 10:48 am
Hi there I'm looking for some advice.

My 9 year old son seems to have difficulty in talking to my wife who is his step mum.

He goes through fases where he will speak with her and then just won't acknowledge that she even exists.

We have been together for 5 years and my son has lived with us for most of that time.


He has recently started wetting his bed and also does things then acts as if he can't remember doing it.

I've took him to see camhs who said he was just acting like a normal 9 year old but I think there's more to it.

can you help please
WorkingWithKids Editor 07/10/2015 at 2:35 pm
I am sorry to hear this, it really is a tricky situation if you have been asked to choose between your wife and your son. Have you thought about mediation between your wife, your ex and yourself in a bid to try and resolve the situation? As a rule, mediation, is when two or more parties meet to resolve problems before the matter reaches court. Mediation takes place in front of a neutral third party. The mediator has no pre-conceptions and will not force you to make an agreement. They will assist the parties in taking turns in the conversation, and helping you reach an agreement that you are ready to agree with. Mediators do not pass judgment or offer guidance; they are there, in effect, to facilitate conversation between the sides. The participants have to come to mediation with an open mind and be willing to discuss things maturely and without wanting to provoke confrontation. Perhaps, in this case, it may be an option, so that you can all come together in order to discuss what is best for the family and best for your son.
Derek 07/10/2015 at 8:33 am
Hi there I have a 9 year old son with ADHD

He was diagnosed last year but for the past 5 years since he came to live with my wife and I he has been a nightmare he goes through phases of not speaking to my wife and making her really uncomfortable. He draws looks at her and does his best to make her feel like she's not wanted.

I have took him to time to talk sessions but that didn't bring anything out. It's now came to the stage where my wife is giving me an ultimate to either make him go back to his mums or she is leaving.

I really need help or advise as I don't want to lose my family.
WorkingWithKids Editor 04/06/2015 at 12:47 pm
@cynthia - I have included an article from Family Lives, which although it is predominantly about step-parents does raise the same issues, link here and should answer your question. You can also call Family Lives for some further advice about how to introduce your child to her biological father. I hope this helps.
cynthia 02/06/2015 at 3:15 pm
hi I have a 6year old girl I recently find out that the dad she knows for six years is not her biological dad now I am faced with the fear of telling her how will she understand that which age should I tell her and how do I introduce the real father so confused
Mel Editor 06/01/2015 at 10:00 am
@Shannon - as it is so out of character I would sit down with your son and ask him if there is any reason for his behaviour to see if there is something underlying that is bothering him. Then if you don't get a answer I would perhaps take him to your GP. It may just be a passing phase, but it seems odd if he doesn't usually behave like this.
Shannon 06/01/2015 at 12:30 am
Hi my son ,who is five in he's first year at school he was just like the over kids loved it in September when he moved to he's new class he was still ok .it all began when i went on holiday for week with my mum when i came back he's teachers just couldn't wait to tell me what's going on as they were telling me about my son's behaviour i just couldn't believe it they were saying things like they at to restrain him as he was apparently he was lashing out at the teachers ,he wouldn't listen, not doing any work, and this was happening everyday for weeks i had metings with the head we've spoke a lot. The hardest things for me to get my head is I've never seen my son in this behaviour. So we've spoken and they think a psychologist would be the next best things for my son but to my i think is a step to far as he's only five but I'll do what's best for my child. What do you think
julie316 09/11/2014 at 5:31 pm
Just need general advice, I've been in and out of court for 4 half years my ex wanted contact with his daughter, I have dealt with this on my own due to not getting legal aid. I am not very good with words so keep getting myself in trouble, I have had a section 37 looking at care proceedings 2 years ago. The problem I have had is cafcass writing reports which are full of liars and only interested in the father.
My problem now is a guardian has been appointed and she had written a awful report my daughter who is 7 has to see a psycolgist now as it has been said now it's emotional abuse, I have been Treated unfair and is extremely upset as how to deal with this person as if he writes a bad report my daughter will have to live with her father, just to point out I have grown up children and there have never been any problems, my ex is causing these problems, can you advise me how to help my daughter and my self to deal with this.
Linsey Editor 10/10/2014 at 8:52 pm
@workingwithkids
Do you know about the possible routes after a foundation degree in counselling? I've just started the course this month and I'm halfway through a counselling diploma. I am trying to find the next step to enable me to work with children,
WorkingWithKids Editor 10/10/2014 at 2:52 pm
@julie

Have you thought of doing an Open University course? It would be one way around not having to go into university each day. It lists a foundation degree in counselling and a BSc honours in psychology.

Dyslexia is a recognised disability under the Equality Act 2010, so there is a lot of help out there with universities and colleges offering extra funding and support. The level of support available can vary, and might include extra time allowed to finish exams, extra time for completion of assignments and a learning support tutor. The British Dyslexia Association can help with more advice.

Any organisation you apply to should get back to you with information, so I'm not sure what's happened there. As you might be aware there are also different levels of counselling and psycotherapy courses which you can take which might not be full time. Have a look online there will be something suitable out there for you. Good luck.
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